Birth!

Jun. 22nd, 2010 12:31 am
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After all my drama on Friday, I felt a little better and got a good sleep Friday night. Good thing, because I had a day of constant braxton-hicks (still ignorable), and then, once I decided to get into bed, I got some contractions that were hard enough that I couldn't sleep through them. After having a bath, and calling birth-support people to let them know what was going on, I continued on that evening mostly in the dark by myself. I'd have a contraction, breathing while leaning on the table, and then quickly lie down on the couch to sleep for a couple of minutes. My doula arrived, and went to sleep in the spare room, and I woke J up at about 2 or 3 when I didn't want to be alone any more. Josh's grandma came, in case we needed to rush to the hospital, and they were up and down for the last half of the night. I actually felt a little rested by 7 the next morning.


At 10, our midwife came to check me out. Not much progress, so she recommended that we all get some sleep. Our doula (the incomparable [livejournal.com profile] morag_gunn) went home to nap in preparation for a probable long night, and Josh went to play with friends. Things tapered off while I watched a movie, and I was actually able to sleep some. Midwife came back at 6 to see what was happening, and decided that we should go in to the hospital for a non-stress test to see how baby was coping, and depending on what my body was doing at that point I'd stay or go home.

My water broke in admitting - I told J, "I'm losing... something.". We made our way upstairs, and I got hooked up to the machines. I was really uncomfortable, and the midwife said that if I didn't stay still the strip would pick up my heartrate instead of baby's, which would look like decelerations during a contraction, which would get me a c-section within about 20 minutes. I'm still mad about that - she felt like she had to terrify me in order to keep me still. Somewhere during the NST I went from early labour to active labour - things got more intense. MW checked my cervix, and declared it to be at 4 cm dilation. I was walked towards my room, and had another contraction with an unmistakable urge to push. I knew I shouldn't, but stopping was kind of like a serious attempt to not have diarrhea. Everyone noticed once I got to the room, and also tried to get me to stop. Yeah, right. Another check, and I was at 8 cm. Somewhere in the middle of all this I was wondering if another c-section would really be that bad..!

Eventually I was declared to be 'complete", which meant that I could actually participate in the pushing instead of the ridiculous process of trying to stop a freight train by blowing at it. Pushing hurt, but everything hurt so I tried to pay attention to the feeling of a baby's head moving down inside my body, and then slowly out, and the feeling of a wet little body sliding after.

I looked down on to the bed between my legs and saw a little girl. Unexpected - we'd wanted a girl, but I wanted so hard not to be disappointed with a boy (as if I would!) that I prepared myself thoroughly to be forever outnumbered (gender-wise) in this family. Seeing her strange lack of penis was a little odd :)

The placenta is much easier to birth than the baby. No bones :)

She'd pooped a lot while being born, so a pediatrician was there to check out her lungs. Instead of having her on my belly right away, and having a leisurely cord-cutting once the placenta had transferred most of the rest of the blood back to where it belonged, she was snipped right away and brought over to a warmer to be checked. Everything was fine, but there's no reason as far as I know that it couldn't have been done on my chest.

After everyone was done marveling at her magnificence, they brought her back to me where we snuggled skin to skin for as long as we could. Eventually, she was weighed at 5 lbs, 15 oz. Tiny!

Some small stitches, and I was good to go!

Hospital overnight, home now, and learning how to be a family of four. Josh is sick, poor guy, which is good news because I thought his lack of eating and general listlessness was brokenhearted agony at having to share HIS parents. Luckily for my sense of guilt, he threw up in J's office after dinner :)

We had brownies and strawberries for dessert tonight, with candles, sparklers on the back patio, and a big brother present for Josh. Happy birthday, baby. I hope we decide on a name soon.

Date: 2010-06-22 08:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] connieandbaby.livejournal.com
Congratulations!
I cant wait to see pics and what you have named her
xxx

Date: 2010-06-22 11:56 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vanagnessayem.livejournal.com
Yeay a girl! And what good timing ;) So chuffed for you guys! Hugs and love to all of you!

Date: 2010-06-22 01:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dracosdan.livejournal.com
Remember Shareef is an Awesome Name for a girl !

/hugs

Date: 2010-06-22 05:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cooan.livejournal.com
So happy to hear it, even though it wasn't the way you dreamed. :) And so lucky to have a precious little girl! So, so lucky! I just want to give you a big hug!

And amazing progress timing wise... sounds so fast!! Oh what else... there was so much I wanted to say when I read this. But I really loved the imagery of blowing to stop a freight train. HAH!

Can't wait to hear/see more. I have been bouncing out of my chair since I heard!!!

Date: 2010-06-22 09:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rock-grrl.livejournal.com
OMG Congrats!! I checked your journal just now because I had a daydream while nursing that you had had your baby and that it was a girl. I'm so happy for you guys!! Welcome earthside little one!!

Date: 2010-06-23 04:44 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sanginmychains.livejournal.com
I still don't understand that "urge to push" thing. For me, it was pure peristalsis, and not doing it would be like not throwing up. If I'm not in control, how can I stop?

I'm so pleased that you got your VBAC, if not the idyllic homebirth, and I can't wait to meet your little girl. I have some lovely little sweaters to pass on.

I still have a list somewhere of hopelessly archaic names that I was never going to be allowed to use, like Eudora (also was voted down on Isadora, Theadora, and Dorothea), Beatrice, Eugenia (yeah yeah, so I happen to like the Princesses' names).

S. was all "I'm not naming my daughter after an email program" and I'm going, "guy, no one but us ever used that email program, who would know?"

Date: 2010-06-23 07:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eva00.livejournal.com
Congrats to all of you!

Date: 2010-06-23 09:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dreamhope.livejournal.com
Congratulations!

I'm also sorry that your birth plan didn't go the way you wanted (I've been reading the posts, though not commenting), but I'm just so glad to hear that you and baby are healthy, and that you didn't have to have more surgery, and that there's now a little baby girl to shop for, and that everything's good... I'm so happy for your family!

Date: 2010-06-24 10:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] faithandworks.livejournal.com
Oh wow!!! Sorry i'm late to comment, didn't catch the news until just now!!! Huge congrats, and welcome to your new baby girl!! xx

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